Leaving Boyfriends/Girlfriends behind...

Well as Alumni I thought I would put my 2cents in.

I went on the program in 2005 and loved every minute of it. I went out to Florida with a boyfriend, suffice to say although we were engaged at the time, he found someone else while I was away. He was a total ass so I didnt mind but it still hurt. Its a long and complicated story!

Pretty much everyone I was with went out with a bf/gf and most left single, I have some real horror stories but I dont wanna scare you guys!

Like most people I say if they love you enough then they will support you and will be there when you get back. It is hard being there without them, but you can talk to them online, get skype and phone them for free. Just don't give up on your dreams for a girl or boy! If you really aren't sure if you can cope then sit down and talk it through with your nearest and dearest and make an informed discision from there.

Hugs,

A xx

 

hey there, may i just say one thing. if your partner would stand in the way of you doing some thing that you really want to do is he or she really worth it. i don't mean to sound the pessimist. and long distance relationships are always hard may be its good to break it off then you will not have that nagging feeling that the other half is up to no good. god i sound like an agony ant. i hope that it all works out for you all. ooh yes the L-word ooohhhh tough

 

i'm curious to hear these "real horror stories" bambi_mad!!

 

trust me you dont!!!! i still cant believe people treated others the way that I witnessed!! Shocking I tell you!!!!!!!

 

Hey,

somerwhere else who left their
boyfriend / girlfriend for florida?

 

I love this Subject ;D

I would say 99% of the people who go out there with a GF/BF will not have one within a month.

I went out there in a relationship and Im in the 1% that still has a fiancee, but she did join the program 12 weeks later. Temptation is everywhere. Living in the Disney Bubble take your mind away from the reality that is beyond the bubble.

Trust me It is very tough. Other cast will not care that you are attached and continue to go after you, sometimes even more so.

 

Oh back to the Subject.

Don't let a relationship get in the way of a dream. If that person truly loves you they will let you follow your dreams. Mine did, but then decided to follow hers and come out as well

 

Guilty your honour!

 

bet that also comes with the terrority working in the car, stu you should be ashamed of yourself ha ha ha ;D ;D

 

I'm planning on staying with my boyfriend, he has no interest in Disney what so ever but is still thinking about coming for a holiday and so we can see each other. Just depends on what happens. I applied for this job before we got together, no one should let anything get in the way of your dream

 

I feel no shame sir...I merely present an option! I don't feel bad if they take it!

 

This is an issue that i think totally depends on the relationship as everyone is different. I guess it comes down to many factors: trust, the length of the relationship, how often you see each other at home, the type of people you both are, and whether or not you "fall" for someone when over there.

I personally have avoided having a relationship incase I go over there, I want to be free, single and carefree and able to enjoy myself without missing anyone.

 

Ha ha i suppose by present an option you mean standing behind the bar wearing only a smile ha ha ha ha

 

Pretty confident that one would get me in trouble!

 

hmm possibly

 

i feel the exact same way, i'm going to miss my boyfriend the entire time, and when i leave it will be the day after our 8 months, im going to be missing our one year, we both have never celebrated a one year. but everyone keeps telling me if it's meant to be its meant to be, that's why i am still holding strong and he is being strong also, he gave me a promise rign, and he says there is no one else out there for him, he said that he was waiting 5 years to talk to me, and the best thing thats happened to him. i think we will be fine, he said he'll try to visit as often as her can, but he will bethere for me and here when i get back, so we can start our life together! he's planning to propose to me like a month after i get back hehe!! i think it's true love and we'll be fine!

just gotta remember if it's meant to be it's meant to be!

 

I'm in a relationship myself, +we'll be at the year+2months mark when I go, we're going into it with a positive attitude+everything, +we think it will make us stronger

But just wondering about an earlier comment, are other CMs really not that supportive of each other/ people in relationshipd?x

 

I wouldn't say people are not supportive. I went out for my programme with the original person who started this thread. We were supportive when she missed her bf etc. But they did split up. She met someone else on the programme. They came home together, lived together in Spain and are now back in the UK with a baby so things worked out well for them they seem to be really happy and are coming up to their 3 year anniversary now.

Be prepared for during the throw-in / meet and greet to be asked about your relationship status and if your with somone they always chant 2 weeks 2 weeks its like a long running joke. Other people will be leaving thier partners behind and missing them like crazy sometimes too so your not going to be going through it alone.

Living in the bubble that is Disney you do forget the outside world a bit and you do form close bonds very quickly with other people because your living and working with them - they basically become your family and lots of relationships start in the bubble

I know of about 6 people who met their partners during the programme and several of them have gotten married since coming home as well. I also knew people who got together at Disney but outside of the Disney bubble split up because they actually couldnt make the relationship work back in the real world.

I also know of some people who survived the programme with long term relationships back home. It really does depend on you the person your with and how you cope with being apart - you may find that being away from them opens your eyes to their faults or makes you miss them and realise how much you care about them. If you think your relationship can't survive the distance or you cant bear being apart from someone then maybe you need to reconsider the relationship and or the programme and do what is right for you. If you stay at home because your with someone and miss out on Disney and hold it against them it wont do your relationship any good in the long run.

 

I got a wee mention in your post in a roundabout way! Ha Ha!
I forgot about this site!

On the topic of leaving partners etc... If the work is put in to keep the relationship going then I'm sure everything would work out just fine!.... If not... You might meet someone across there, propose on a cruise ship and get married a year down the line... Both good options!

 

haha i didnt want to name you personally