If you're in a relationship...

If you're in a relationship and have been accepted onto this program break up with them NOW!!!!

Dont wait till you leave, dont try and carry it on... just end it right now!!!!!

My bf is currently out there and its really not nice to be the person they leave behind and having to know they'd rather be at disney for a year than be with you!

Break up!

Thats all ^_^ lol

 

It's sad, but I agree, go and have the time of your life as a single, don't hurt people and don't force yourself to feel guilty when you can avoid both things. If there is true love between you and your partner then everything will be ok once you get back home. Don't go to Disney keeping a long disntance relationship, believe me, it's not the best choice....

 

I disagree, I'd go keeping a long distance relationship. There's skype, we get discounts on visits and if they're understanding about you hanging out with friends and such, there's no reason why it shouldn't work. They should recognize that you have a dream and should let you pursue it!

 

tinkithink, I sooo second that.

 

My boyfriend is of the opinion Let me go for 12 months, or let me resent him for the rest of our lives. I think he's the sensible one. So yea, assuming I get on the program, I'll be keeping up a long distance relationship, and I've told him he's got to visit lots. He works strange hours anyway, so the time difference won't be an issue when getting hold of each other on skype. He actually admitted to me the other day that he was worried I'd go and *not* have a good time! How sweet is that?

 

That's what my bf thinks. He said he obviously doesn't want me to go (who wants their gf however many miles away) but he's had to concede becauseee my dream comes first!

 

It'll obviously be tough but I think some people are cut out for it, and some just aren't. I'm single right now and making sure I keep it that way. I figure there is no point starting something when I'm leaving so soon. But for those in relationships, it would be hard to break up and I understand trying to keep it going, although I hate long phone calls lol.

 

I met my boyfriend unexpectedly at a Halloween party just dAys after being accepted on the crp program
If history has taught me Anything, if you are single enjoy be safe and have fun
if you're in a relationship, go with your gut and avoid making any impulsive decisions
with more understanding commitment and support and dedication to each other the easier it is

good luck!

 

this is a veeeeery tricky situation to be in and it totally depends on the couple honestly... like jackie said... some can handle it and some can't! I guess if you're really meant to be it'll work out right?! ;D

 

I don't know how but accidentally posted my original response in the september
crowd post lol
still learning my iPod touch
anywaaays, it is tricky but it's literally one of those things that just happened
sometimes the best things in life happen when you're making other plans
I think John Lennon said that too?

 

Well as I said I'm currently in a relationship and they left for CRP on December 3rd, so its been over a month since we've seen eachother.

Like you said before he left we said we would skype all the time, talk to eachother all the time, and that it wouldnt be a big deal.

VERY different situation when it actually begins.

He is ALWAYS doing something, going out, working, or just visiting people hes met out there. So we're lucky if we skype just once a month. The time difference complicates everything too... the times hes free to talk im not and vice versa.

We had an extremely happy and loving relationship before he left, and like your bf has said to you I told him that I didnt mind him leaving and I didnt want to hold him back... again this all changed when he left.

We tend to argue all the time now. Most of it is the strain of being apart.

Its extremely difficult being the person they leave behind... as much as you dont want to hold them back, you cant help but feel "they are obviously happier being 5000 miles away from me than be here with me". And it can drive you crazy eventually.

I have to wake up everyday knowing that i've lost out to disney! its not nice at all!

We're still going to continue it and see if it works... I am doing ICP in the summer so I'll be with him loads then. But its just a lot harder than we first thought... a LOT harder.

I cant help but think it would be fairer to those considering to do CRP to end it before you go and just see how it is when you get back.

 

Your feedback is really helpful however I feel as though each situation is different as well as every person.
I wish you the best of luck!

 

Obviously each situation is different! There's no time difference for me and my bf, I was only gone for three months, and he came to see me. Plus, I don't go out, so I pretty much worked and stayed in the apartment, so we were able to talk loads. And he didn't seem to see it as I was happier without him, just that I wish we could be happier TOGETHER in Orlando! I wish he liked Disney, then he would apply for the program!

 

13 months is very different to 3 haha

but glad u got through it!

 

You seem to be forgetting that it's not going to be 13 months. You're going to be with your boyfriend again over the summer. If you really are in the loving relationship that you say you are, you have to go through the hard times to get to the great times. Just think of all the awesome fun you can both have together come June. Yes, it's hard being apart, but if you really want it to work, you'll make it work.

What if you broke up with him now because you didn't think you could last? How awkward will it be for you when you're finally out there? I'm not saying it'll be easy, that's stupid. But if you really want it to work, you'll make it work. Will power.

I can see where you're coming from, but at the same time, I hate to see what looks like such a final, closed off opinion. Good Luck for the pair of you.

 

Oh, and my points go out to both of you. Your boyfriend needs to make it work just as much as you do. If he's not paying you enough attention, then he's stupid to not think of his bf every 5 seconds. He should be missing you *whilst* having fun. Tell him that you don't think he's paying you enough attention. Tell him that you matter as well. If you both want it to work then you'll both make the effort.

 

Me and my boyfriend broke up last week because of arguments surrounding the fact I had got on the Summer ICP programme. He was originally gonna apply as well so we could be together, but when the time came he "couldn't be bothered" to book a phone interview. After I got through the first interview he became very cagey about it all. I then got through my second interview and to this day still haven't even had a "well done". At the end of the day if your partner can't support you in your dreams and wishes then it's just not meant to be, even if you think they are your entire life, just as I thought. Before we split I was incredibly nervous about leaving him, and having to go from being in 24/7 contact to not seeing him for 3 months. This drove me mad, so I can imagine anything longer than this is truly heartbreaking. If you can both just look forward to the future and if you two are still in a happy relationship then it'll all work out, but if the arguing is causing too much hurt, as mine was, then everything needs to be evaluated. You really need to delve into the bottom of your heart and look at your future, and how you truly want it to be. I really hope that everyone is happy in life, nothing should come between true love.

 

I think everyone has a point because each person is different, some are stronger to temptation than others.
By 'temptation' I don't necessarily mean other guys or girls though; I mean the lifestyle, the friendships, the job... pretty much a new world to get adjusted to, to become part of and to make the most of.

My personal experience doesn't include a long distance relationship but I can tell you how overwhelming it all was, maybe even more so because as a European, the US appeared so different...so much to explore and so many people to meet...all from different nationalities!

I'm saying this just because I think cheating isn't the only problem that can come between a couple in a long distance relationship during a Disney program.

I fully understand StevenC when he says he feels neglected by his bf (sorry you have to go through it, hopefully it'll be better when you join him...).
In my experience I had very little time for anything that wasn't in Orlando! I shared an apartment with 7 girls from different nationalities, I worked with other Italians, none of whom I knew... clearly all activities right from the beginning (from the trip to Walmart or the bus ride to work to throw-in parties and nights out in downtown Orlando) are means to socialize, get to know your room mates, your neighbors, your co-workers, getting to know your way around.
I'm happy I didn't have a boyfriend at home because simply my work schedule and the time difference would have made it hard to be there for him.. then there was no Skype back then, only one fixed phone line (8 girls!!) and no pc at home, only in the labs!
In just a few months I got accustomed to my new routine, my new life and the people I shared it with were those who could truly understand, while my friends an ocean away couldn't.

After having said all this, I have met a couple of girls who successfully had long distance relationships. They were driven, they came to Disney to work (not just for the parties), both were in their late 20's and had been with their boyfriends for many years before the program. What I can tell you for sure is that they had to give up something to be there for their partners, mostly some social life and trips (they'd only travel and take time off when their boyfriends were visiting).

It's doable, it all depends on the person.

Best of luck to all of you!

Jenny

 

i just dont understand y disney takes up all ur time every second of the day... so much so u cant even talk to any1 at home!

i mean i'm at university at the moment and there are people from all over the world here and im constantly doing work and socialising... but i still have time to talk to my friends elsewhere and visit them as often as i can!

i guess it takes a certain type of person to be able to go away for a year from ur friends and family without caring too much. i just couldnt do it personally... but hey im not applying for this program ha!

 

The whole thing really depends on who you are, and what your situation is.
I did the program in '08, while I had a boyfriend. We were able to make things work and were able to talk every second day on the phone (thank goodness for calling cards) but as much as he loved me, he still resented the fact that I was having the time of my life without him. Not to say he was super bitter about it, but he constantly felt like I was happier in Florida than I ever could be with him. Even though I told him this was ridiculous, I do know I probably took him for granted a bit that summer because I didn't make as much as an effort once I got really into things. You get so caught up with new friends and work and partying, it is hard to think of anything thats going on outside your little Disney bubble.

Also, I will admit- Being in a housing complex with hundreds of other people your age, who are all looking to party and have a good time, is a very big distraction. Even as much as I loved my boyfriend, it was hard to completely ignore the advances and attention from other guys.

Sadly, my bf and I broke up after I got home. Being down there I just realized I had bigger dreams, and even though he supported me all the way, he did not understand how I could be so dedicated to something that he just couldn't understand. He was not a Disney fan like I am, and I didn't want our relationship to grow into resentment on both parts. I didn't want to resent him from holding me back, and I didn't want him to resent me for having a dream that didn't involve him.

Its really up to you, but from personal experience- I would say go single. You have so much to enjoy and experience, its easier to not have to worry about what your significant other is worrying about you.

Did I mention the ridiculous amounts of foreign hotties? hahaha